© 2002 Janet Jacobsen



What Works

To Find a Better Romance, Hang out With Your Friends



Many singles put all their energy into finding a romance rather than into finding friends. They attend singles events until they meet a "likely prospect."



After dating a while, they conclude that the relationship doesn't have a future and drop one another, heading back to singles groups to find another "prospect," meanwhile complaining bitterly about having "wasted"… Continue

" 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have lov'd at all" so Tennyson tells us.



But there are many now who would disagree with him. Time after time we hear of those who've loved and then endured the pain of separation. This appears to scar some people for life.



The question is not only can you love after separation, but how can you love after separation?



First, let 's dispel the notion that it 's easier for the person who leaves to pick up the… Continue

You don't need to have any kind of preparation whatsoever in order to find a partner. But, in order to find a great partner, you need to have even more preparation than you would to find a great job. The successes in our life don't happen by accident or without effort.



The more of the things that you do on this list, the better partner you will find.



DECIDE ON WHAT YOU WANT FIRST--When you go shopping for food, there are those essential things that you don't want to forget… Continue

The concept of online dating has existed for more than a decade, and over the years, as Internet technology has gotten more capable, dating website have become more advanced and useful. When people did not have high speed Internet, using graphic intensive websites was slow and frustrating, and online dating relies heavily on the use of pictures. Also, there were not as many Internet users ten years ago as there are now, so the crop of who to choose from was limited. Now nearly every person in… Continue

Discern between accepting and settling. Accept what you cannot change, but never settle for anything below your standards.



When you settle for less than your standards, you allow yourself to lose integrity and you lose a piece of yourself every time. Simple math tells you that the more you're not in integrity, the more you lose.



Being out of integrity is very similar to your spine being out of its healthy alignment, or the alignment of your car being out of its proper… Continue